My Husband's Best Friend Is a Female/Ex Room Mate....

My Husband's Best Friend Is a Female, His Ex Room Mate and Also Married!

You know when you start to date someone and you really know that they are the one, that you're willing to tollerate a whole lot. A person is only able to take so much. When you love them, you try to let them know that no matter what, you're there for them.

Then you finally get married and he's still living with his best friend and her new husband.

This knew that he was bound by a lease to stay there for a little while. She came along and pulled a really swift one! She tricked him into signing another years lease, causing that couple to have to stay with that lease until the end of 2008. She swears up and down she didn't. However when they tell her, "You're going to have to find someone else to rent out that room. We need to move out and can no longer afford this." She blew a fuse and told him that she did not want to find anyone else to live there. She didn't want anyone living there.

After he attempted to tell her, she cut him off. She did not let him finish what he'd started telling her, causing more strain on his marriage and financial burdens. He was a softie! He did not tell her anything of the sort, because she kept cutting him off. His wife agreed to stay quite until he could figure out what to do. She continued to make sure that even though, 95% of the time, the other couple weren't living there, she'd get money out of her Best Friend (she claimed).

The couple had to file bankrutcy to be able to make ends meet. She made Best Friend feel like crap every time he'd try to talk to her. He tried to explain it to her.

Finally, it came to the point that the Best Friend had to tell her, he couldn't give her any money due to having a family of his own. He had bills that he had to take care of. The Best Friend's wife had to quit the job that she had due to stress and depression that the job had been causing, along with the health issues. Thus, giving them more troubles financially.

When the Best Friend tried to tell her that he couldn't give her any money. She gave him a major quilt trip, causing him to be all upset. This made him feel like it was all his fault. Everything that she couldn't have, everything that she couldn't do, was all his fault. She told him, "If i lose my home, I will never forgive you!"

The wife knew something was wrong when she'd talked to her husband over the phone, and asked him what was wrong. When he'd told her what the room mate had told her, she was absolutely furious. She had been raised that Family came first, Friends stand by each other no matter what, You understood the problems of others, You done what you could, and quilt trips were not something that you done to your friends.

So the wife had asked the husband, "Do you mind if I send her an email? I have done as you've asked all of this time. I cannot take any more of her doing this to you. She's ran over you long enough! It's not your fault! We have four small children, a family to support, bills that are behind and some that are getting ready to be cut off. She has taken and used your checks to do a check to pay her cable bill without making sure that I agreed to it causing us to be over drawn for the past two times that we'd been paid...that's $1,000 that she's cost us. Not including the fact that Cable is not a main thing to needed to survive, as she seems to think and have in her head!"

The Best Friend agreed to let the wife send the ex room mate an email. She did! She made if very clear that she did not like the way that she had been treating her husband. She aslo informed her that they would be arriving to remove everything from the apartment as soon as they could.

The wife came to the point that she wasn't going to put her family and finances in jepordy due to some bimbo that couldn't put her equator sized ego behind her. She needed to realize and learn how to save money, use coupons, cut back on certain things, quit saying she wears the pants in her marriage, because she treats her husband the same way that she treats the Best Friend. She runs over both of them to get what she wants, when she wants it!

In the end, she also told her that if she kept going like she was, one day she was going to wake up when reality slapped her, she wouldn't have her husband, her Best Friend, her family would turn against her and she was going to be alone. She'd be looking back and wondering what she'd done and what she'd done wrong. Her son that she was currently carrying, would one day be looking at her like she was a horrible parent to raise him and her like that because his daddy would be the one to teach him what his mother was uncappable of understanding.

The wife only sent the email to get the ex room mate to wake up and see what reality really was. She also sent it to tell her that she was wrong to taking advantage of the two men in her life that should had ment the world to her, that would had done anything to help her as they were capable of, and she was taking advantage of both of them. That one day, the best friend needed her help, needed her to listen, needed her to understand that he couldn't support her too and his own family. He has a big heart, but there is only so much that a person can do or take and handle.

What else could she had done to get through to her since she never let anyone else finish what they had started to tell her? She always had it in her head that she was right and no one else was even when the wife and already proved it to her once before. She still said she was right and that the wife was wrong. She always treated the wife like she was dirt when the "Best Friend" was not around. So, since she knew she couldn't talk to her without her butting in, she couldn't stand to look at her and her Michael Jackson nose, she figured the best thing to do was to send an email to get through to her without being cut off, without being mad enough to deck her, without having to listen to her run her mouth (especially after the remark "if a baby and a dog were drowning, I'd save the dog).

The moral of the story is:

Don't ever try to do more than you can. Don't ever let anyone run over you and your family. If you know that deep in your heart you're right and they are wrong, no matter how much they THINK they are right (all of the time)! Never let anyone run over your family due to a past agreements if you know that you're sinking in debt and you've done everything to keep that agreement, including going further and further in debt. Always be honest, as it will always be for the best. If someone will not let you finish what you have to say, without butting in and cutting you off, always use the broken record method and keep repeating yourself until that person shuts up. Make sure you do it as you had started. Once they open their mouth, to butt in. Do it until they shut up! Finish what you started. Never give up! Always treat your Best Friend and your family with all the love and charish them forever....other wise, one day, you won't have anyone. You'll be all alone!